性教育教學資源網 http://http://sexedu.moe.edu.tw zh-tw 2016.03.04 新聞評析:家中坐坐 <b><span style="font-size: smaller;">時事評析#16 105年三月份</span></b><br /> ~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~<br /> <br /> <b style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family: 標楷體">新聞:</span></b> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><b><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt; font-family:標楷體">2016.02.20 </span></b><b><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">自由時報 </span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體"><a href="http://news.ltn.com.tw/news/society/breakingnews/1608564"><b><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-family:Arial;letter-spacing:.6pt;mso-font-kerning: 18.0pt"><span lang="EN-US">邀約家中「看娃娃」</span></span></b><b><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-family:Arial;letter-spacing:.6pt;mso-font-kerning:18.0pt"><span lang="EN-US"> </span></span></b></a><b><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;letter-spacing:.6pt;mso-font-kerning:18.0pt"><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://news.ltn.com.tw/news/society/breakingnews/1608564">男約砲國中少女送辦<br /> <br /> </a></span></span></b><span style="font-size: 14pt; line-height: 20pt; text-indent: 28pt;">評析</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size: 14pt; line-height: 20pt; text-indent: 28pt;">:<br /> </span></span><br /> <span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK"> 小</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">學生</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">經常</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">會</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">去同學家作功課</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">所以對於去別人的家</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">由於習以為常</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">並不會有太大的警覺。</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">但如果是中學生,對於別人邀請你去他家,都應該提高警覺,小心為上。因為</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">性侵案件最常發生的私人場合,就是私人住宅。它可能是性侵者的家,被害者的家,或是第三者的家。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent:28.0pt;mso-char-indent-count:2.0; line-height:20.0pt;mso-line-height-rule:exactly"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK"></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent:28.0pt;mso-char-indent-count:2.0; line-height:20.0pt;mso-line-height-rule:exactly"><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">有些女孩子</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">毫無危機意識</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">竟然儍儍地邀男子至家</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">中</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">,甚至到自己的房間。雖然</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">是</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">在自己的家中</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,或因</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">家人不在</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">或</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">家人不知</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">有不速之客</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">還是有可能</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">讓自己</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">陷</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">入</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">險境。</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">曾經有女孩趁父母不在家帶男友回家。剛好父母返家,就把男友藏在自己的房間,男友趁機企圖性侵,女孩因怕父母責罵,不敢求救,以致男友性侵得逞。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent:28.0pt;mso-char-indent-count:2.0; line-height:20.0pt;mso-line-height-rule:exactly"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK"></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent:28.0pt;mso-char-indent-count:2.0; line-height:20.0pt;mso-line-height-rule:exactly"><span style="font-size:14.0pt; font-family:標楷體">至於女孩至男性友人家被性侵的例子,更是不勝枚舉。</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">一般男性邀女性至他家</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">的</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">理由</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,林林總總,</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">千奇百怪。如</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">上述新聞案例</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">的看布娃娃</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">。其他還有</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">看</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">兔</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">子、</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">唱</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">KTV</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">、</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">看卡通</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">、聊天</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">或是喝茶。若是對方心存歹念,只要你踏入他家一步,就如同籠中鳥,</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">甕</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">中</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">鱉,</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">任人宰割</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,毫無抵抗的能力</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">。</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">曾有一位性侵受害者,描述那種情境<span lang="EN-US">:</span>「一進入他家,我發現我完全喪失了自主權,毫無招架之力。從也要從,不從也要從。」<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent:28.0pt;mso-char-indent-count:2.0; line-height:20.0pt;mso-line-height-rule:exactly"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK"></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent:28.0pt;mso-char-indent-count:2.0; line-height:20.0pt;mso-line-height-rule:exactly"><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">「要不要到我家坐坐</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">?</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">」</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">不一定都是性侵的前奏,它也可以</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">是一種</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">宛轉的</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">性邀約</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">。</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">它真正的意思其實是,「要不要到我家作愛?」了解真正含意的女孩,</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">當然可以</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">作出正確的回應。但有些涉世未深的小女孩,根本不懂其中的含意,以為就像小時候去同學家一般。等到誤上了賊船,想要全都身而退,就可能没有那麼容易。如果遇到比較善良的人,知道是誤會一場,或許會放你一馬。但大多數情形是,不管是誤會與否,只要你進了他家,到口的肉,絶無再吐出來的道理。</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">也就是上述的<span lang="EN-US">:</span>「從也要從,不從也要從。」<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent:28.0pt;mso-char-indent-count:2.0; line-height:20.0pt;mso-line-height-rule:exactly"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK"></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent:28.0pt;mso-char-indent-count:2.0; line-height:20.0pt;mso-line-height-rule:exactly"><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">所以我</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">們一定要明白地教導</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">孩</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">子</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">,</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">“</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">到我家坐坐</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">”</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">,或是</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">“</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">到你家坐坐</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">”</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">,都可能是性邀約</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,也可能是性侵的幌子</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">。尤其是</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">1</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">2</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">至</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">1</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK"> 8</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">歲的孩子</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">也就是最容易被性侵的國高中生</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,更是要特別注意。他們</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">一定要了解</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">私人住宅</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">是最常發生性侵的</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">地方</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,以及</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">「</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">到我家坐坐</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">」</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">「</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">到你家坐坐</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">」的真正含意。沒有把握,最好避免前往朋友的家</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">,</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">也不要輕易帶朋友到自己的家。尤其是初</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">見面</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">的網友,</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">完全不知道是好人還是壞人,</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">更</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">是</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">要</span><span style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體">十二萬分的注意</span><span lang="ZH-HK" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK">。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體;mso-fareast-language:ZH-HK"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-indent:28.0pt;mso-char-indent-count:2.0; line-height:20.0pt;mso-line-height-rule:exactly"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體"></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: right;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-size:14.0pt;font-family:標楷體"> <span style="font-size: 14pt;">主筆人:周明文,台灣性教育學會理事、永和復康醫院副院長<br /> ~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~。~</span><b><o:p></o:p></b></span></p> http://http://sexedu.moe.edu.tw/news_detail.asp?sn=1523